“Where this discipline of the tongue is practiced right from the beginning, each individual will make a matchless discovery. He will be able to cease from constantly scrutinizing the other person, judging him, condemning him, putting him in his place where he can gain ascendancy over him and thus doing violence to him as a person. Now he can allow the brother to exist as a completely free person, as God made him to be…I can never know beforehand how God’s image should appear in others." Dietrich Bonhoeffer

well, i'll write more about this later but, just know it has changed my life.